You think your relationship's got problems?
- Dead Man Wade
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You think your relationship's got problems?
I've been friends with this guy (we'll call him Steve) for about 18 years now. We work together, we hang out constantly, etc. He's like a brother to me.
Well, a few months back, he started dating this girl (we'll call her The Unholy She-Bitch), and quickly developed strong feelings for her, despite her more repellant qualities. After a very short amount of time, he moved in with her, at which point she quickly began dominating his entire life. She told him she refused to have video games in her home, as they were a waste of time, and got pissed whenever she found out he'd been playing them elsewhere. She got angry every time he did anything without so much as a "By your leave..."
Now, by way of background (and to make it abundantly clear that, despite my less than warm feelings for her, she does have reasons for doing the things she does), The USB is in her early twenties, and incredibly....financially secure. She owns a lot of real estate, and doesn't really have to worry about where her next anything's coming from. So, obviously, her way of doing things has worked incredibly well. For her.
Shortly after they started dating, The USB decided she was going to take Steve to Las Vegas for Valentine's Day to see Elton John, as he's a huge fan. However, Valentine's Day was a no go, as Sir Elton was apparently on hiatus for a while, so the whole thing was pushed back to Steve's Birthday.
A few weeks ago, Steve and the USB started having problems. Shockingly, having moved in together only a short time after beginning the relationship, the close proximity began to grate on them both. Things got progressively worse, until Steve was eventually kicked out. He's since been sleeping on people's couches in the hopes that they will be reconciled.
In spite of all of this, plans for the trip to Vegas proceeded, as Steve and the USB tried to work out their differences. Finally, on Tuesday, they boarded a plane and flew to Vegas.
Today, I arrived at work and was informed that, not only had they broken up a day into the trip, but that she had kicked him out of the hotel room. Since then, I and several other people have been in contact with Steve throughout the day, trying to figure out what to do. Fortunately, he's moved up his departure, so he'll be flying back tomorrow (if, that is, the USB's refusal to give him the confirmation number doesn't cause to many problems). However, while he has the cash to pay for a hotel room, he doesn't have a credit card with him, and that has proven to be a major stumbling block in trying to find a place to sleep.
Finally, it seems it has become necessary for him to take a shuttle to the airport and just sleep there, which, while hardly ideal, is certainly better than wandering the streets of Vegas all night.
Needless to say, if and when I see the USB again, it will be all I can do to avoid beating the ever-loving s*** out of her.
Well, a few months back, he started dating this girl (we'll call her The Unholy She-Bitch), and quickly developed strong feelings for her, despite her more repellant qualities. After a very short amount of time, he moved in with her, at which point she quickly began dominating his entire life. She told him she refused to have video games in her home, as they were a waste of time, and got pissed whenever she found out he'd been playing them elsewhere. She got angry every time he did anything without so much as a "By your leave..."
Now, by way of background (and to make it abundantly clear that, despite my less than warm feelings for her, she does have reasons for doing the things she does), The USB is in her early twenties, and incredibly....financially secure. She owns a lot of real estate, and doesn't really have to worry about where her next anything's coming from. So, obviously, her way of doing things has worked incredibly well. For her.
Shortly after they started dating, The USB decided she was going to take Steve to Las Vegas for Valentine's Day to see Elton John, as he's a huge fan. However, Valentine's Day was a no go, as Sir Elton was apparently on hiatus for a while, so the whole thing was pushed back to Steve's Birthday.
A few weeks ago, Steve and the USB started having problems. Shockingly, having moved in together only a short time after beginning the relationship, the close proximity began to grate on them both. Things got progressively worse, until Steve was eventually kicked out. He's since been sleeping on people's couches in the hopes that they will be reconciled.
In spite of all of this, plans for the trip to Vegas proceeded, as Steve and the USB tried to work out their differences. Finally, on Tuesday, they boarded a plane and flew to Vegas.
Today, I arrived at work and was informed that, not only had they broken up a day into the trip, but that she had kicked him out of the hotel room. Since then, I and several other people have been in contact with Steve throughout the day, trying to figure out what to do. Fortunately, he's moved up his departure, so he'll be flying back tomorrow (if, that is, the USB's refusal to give him the confirmation number doesn't cause to many problems). However, while he has the cash to pay for a hotel room, he doesn't have a credit card with him, and that has proven to be a major stumbling block in trying to find a place to sleep.
Finally, it seems it has become necessary for him to take a shuttle to the airport and just sleep there, which, while hardly ideal, is certainly better than wandering the streets of Vegas all night.
Needless to say, if and when I see the USB again, it will be all I can do to avoid beating the ever-loving s*** out of her.
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Yep I agree. Steve seems a bit of a dreamer to be honest. Who the hell goes to Las Vegas and doesn't take a credit/debit card?
Obviously in the grand scheme of things, it's a small thing to pick up on, but I think it justifies me calling him a 'dreamer' rather well.
-Ss
Obviously in the grand scheme of things, it's a small thing to pick up on, but I think it justifies me calling him a 'dreamer' rather well.
-Ss
I found God. Then I lost him. He'll probably turn up down the back of the sofa someday.
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Wow, from the second paragraph, I could tell it was a bad relationship.
While I usually agree, it sounds like this one needs to be smacked around a bit, as she obviously doesn't know how to treat a guy.
BTW, is anyone reading "financially secure" as spoiled, rich whore?
Originally posted by TSFC
It's not right for a man to hit a woman
While I usually agree, it sounds like this one needs to be smacked around a bit, as she obviously doesn't know how to treat a guy.
BTW, is anyone reading "financially secure" as spoiled, rich whore?
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Or if she was that you are what you eat woman.
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She's a real ladydog. No doubt she's played this one before.
It's Steve who should be slapped, bless him, to wake him up. He's gotten stomped on, chewed up and chucked out TWICE. I do so hope he isn't looking for any kind of further reconciliation with the USB, but he might have it bad and it can be blind.
This is going to be a hard one to get over. Dead Man Wade, he's going to need to lean on that 18 year friendship.
It's Steve who should be slapped, bless him, to wake him up. He's gotten stomped on, chewed up and chucked out TWICE. I do so hope he isn't looking for any kind of further reconciliation with the USB, but he might have it bad and it can be blind.
This is going to be a hard one to get over. Dead Man Wade, he's going to need to lean on that 18 year friendship.
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Sounds like one of my ex step-mothers, except the age thing. There's a lot of personal experience I could give, and a lot of amateur psycho-analysis I could give - but I'll spare everyone both for once.
Do what you can to get the guy back 'home' (not the woman's house, of course, just someplace he can stay). Maybe an unattached bud can offer a roomate situation for the time being, while Steve gets his things and affairs in order?
Do what you can to get the guy back 'home' (not the woman's house, of course, just someplace he can stay). Maybe an unattached bud can offer a roomate situation for the time being, while Steve gets his things and affairs in order?
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- Dead Man Wade
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Originally posted by Clogs
It's Steve who should be slapped, bless him, to wake him up.
Oh, trust me. I'm planning on it.
As for a reconciliation, there's obviously no chance, and he's certainly not planning on trying.
But, wait! It gets better!
I got a call from him today, and, apparently, he's been arrested. So, now, I get to somehow wrangle $1200 to bail him out.
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Originally posted by TFVanguard
you have to keep in mind
Why do I have to keep in mind what's happened to you? I'm guessing DMW is sharp enough not to take everything I say at face value, and he's the one who posted the topic... unless you have exactly the same situation happening right now this minute, I fail to see where some people you know amble into this.
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I know he's your friend, maybe he's going through a rough spell...
But is this a sign of an over-all problem?
He keeps making bad decision after bad decision. Giving him 1200 bucks may be money wasted.
Please understand, I am generally biased to a guy's perspective. I have no doubts "financially secure" = Daddy left her a ton of money. That doesn't excuse Steve. He needs the slapping of a lifetime.
We don't live in fairytale land, no one gives away trips to Vegas with out strings attached. Strings, that it seems, Steve had subconscious reasons to break.
But is this a sign of an over-all problem?
He keeps making bad decision after bad decision. Giving him 1200 bucks may be money wasted.
Please understand, I am generally biased to a guy's perspective. I have no doubts "financially secure" = Daddy left her a ton of money. That doesn't excuse Steve. He needs the slapping of a lifetime.
We don't live in fairytale land, no one gives away trips to Vegas with out strings attached. Strings, that it seems, Steve had subconscious reasons to break.
Come on and wind me up.