People prying about salaries/wages/earnings.
People prying about salaries/wages/earnings.
It seems that lately, the more people I talk to, the more they want to know how much I make in terms of annual/weekly/hourly earnings. Usually, when I'm at the gym a lot of the "blue-collared"/non-office members there that I talk to eventually ask how much I make. I hate to point it out like that but I've noticed that the "white-collared"/office members don't ask. This is a bit of a wierd situation for me but it's been popping up so often now that I have to wonder if this is the new norm or if the people who want to know this are still just prying prats. Now, the way I've been raised, I was taught that other people apart from a financial advisor, public accountan, other money professionals, it's none of a person's business to know what I make nor should I ask how much they make. Over the years, it's gotten to the point where I don't care how much a person makes.
Just yesterday, someone asked me...again how much I made and just to get him off my back without answering the question, I simply said, "I dunno."
"Whaddaya mean, 'you don't know.'?"
"I don't know. Not really concerned about. More concerned with the job itself."
"What?!?! Money's the most important concern."
"Not for me. I'm more concerned with what I'm doing and how I'm doing it."
"What?!?! Who cares what you're doing as long as you get paid!"
I start to leave to begin my workout while saying, "sorry, man. Dunno."
I don't know if it's just my situation or not but has this become commonplace and I'm just getting old and set in my ways? What also bothered me a bit is that money was this guy's most important concern and not what he does for a living. I was tempted to ask him if he would be a hitman for the mob if it paid better, but I was afraid of the answer.
Oh, and before I forget, yeah, I did just say, "it's none of your business" at first. It didn't work and only caused them to pry more.
Just yesterday, someone asked me...again how much I made and just to get him off my back without answering the question, I simply said, "I dunno."
"Whaddaya mean, 'you don't know.'?"
"I don't know. Not really concerned about. More concerned with the job itself."
"What?!?! Money's the most important concern."
"Not for me. I'm more concerned with what I'm doing and how I'm doing it."
"What?!?! Who cares what you're doing as long as you get paid!"
I start to leave to begin my workout while saying, "sorry, man. Dunno."
I don't know if it's just my situation or not but has this become commonplace and I'm just getting old and set in my ways? What also bothered me a bit is that money was this guy's most important concern and not what he does for a living. I was tempted to ask him if he would be a hitman for the mob if it paid better, but I was afraid of the answer.
Oh, and before I forget, yeah, I did just say, "it's none of your business" at first. It didn't work and only caused them to pry more.
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Originally posted by Brendocon
I find the best response to "how much do you get paid?" is "Why, how much do you get?" wait for them to respond, cock your head sideways, suppress a smirk and say "really? okay then" and stroll off.
Problem with that though and my bad for not previously mentioning this, the guys that usually ask me those question admit to what they make without me even asking. They don't hide it at all. I'm guessing the reason is for the "big dick effect" such as how some people I know compare laptops to see who has the better laptop. Could also apply to sports cars and other things.
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Originally posted by Civ
Problem with that though and my bad for not previously mentioning this, the guys that usually ask me those question admit to what they make without me even asking. They don't hide it at all. I'm guessing the reason is for the "big dick effect" such as how some people I know compare laptops to see who has the better laptop. Could also apply to sports cars and other things.
its clear that you have to one up them by actually taking out your penis and say "alright mate, How big is your's then?".
hitting them in the face with it might help too.
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Originally posted by Hawkeye
its clear that you have to one up them by actually taking out your penis and say "alright mate, How big is your's then?".
hitting them in the face with it might help too.
hope you don't have a gym full of sprinters to catch you once you've done that....
life is great. then you die and leave everything to your wife.
There's lots of ways to counter this... but, really, it is just a game of penis-size and it's often not worth it. The guys who ask you this are trying to 'compare at the john'. The women who ask you this are wondering how much you can spend on them.
"Enough" is good enough. If they continue to harass you about it, do what Brend suggested.
"Enough" is good enough. If they continue to harass you about it, do what Brend suggested.
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As far as I'm concerned, it's a stupid taboo anyway - not talking about how much you earn. However, a polite 'That's my business' should do the trick.
And I'm 100% in agreement with Ghostal (doesn't happen often) on this one.
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And I'm 100% in agreement with Ghostal (doesn't happen often) on this one.
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I earn about 9K a year... not a lot at all, but that's for about thirty hours a week, generally of not doing a lot of work. That's enough to cover rent, cigarettes, nights at the pub, crisps, Gobots and odds and sods for the other half. Don't really see any need to earn much more, TBH, when my quality of life is so high... In a way, I like not having a massive amount of disposable cash, as it means I enjoy toys and stuff that bit more when I get them, and there's always ebay if I need money (I'm guessing Armada Skywarp's actually rare now, seeing as I just shifted mine for £35... that's a morning's wages, that is!).
Umm, I agree with Ghostal.Originally posted by Vin Ghostal
Whatever...ignore those people...long-term job satisfaction, along with the possibility of position flexibility/promotion, is more important than your wage right this moment. Enjoy what you're doing, and you'll eventually be paid fairly well for doing it.
Somebody check the forecast for hell...
Well, my income is pretty random 'cause I do freelance now. Primarily I'm a stay at home dad, 'cause game development required 80 hour work weeks and only paid me $40K for doing it.
I'm also pretty weird, though, since my father and step-mothers, had incredibly successful careers, made very good money, were lousy parents. I'm far more willing to forsake 'cash' for being home with my kids than most people are.
I'm also pretty weird, though, since my father and step-mothers, had incredibly successful careers, made very good money, were lousy parents. I'm far more willing to forsake 'cash' for being home with my kids than most people are.