What are the ethics of dating? (sound off ladies)

Galvatron91 · Post by **Galvatron91** » Thu Jan 10, 2008 11:22 pm

I'd love to get some female feedback here...since most of the guys here have never had a date...

*ZING*

Sorry friends, all opinions are welcome, but I would like some female input especially.

Obviously, it has been a while since I have been in the dating pool. I've met two very intriguing ladies, and just gone out once with each of them. One I spend a significant amount of time on the phone with, the other we frequently text each other and email one another. I haven't kissed either of them and I don't want to be unfair to either. How long is acceptable for me to see them both before I really have to focus on one.

*I know casper will tell me to sleep with them both and compare, but he's the Archive slut for a reason...*

Thoughts?

Comments?

Questions?

Sociopathic Autobot · Thu Jan 10, 2008 11:36 pm

Sleep with them both and compare.

Post by **Denyer** » Thu Jan 10, 2008 11:42 pm

What're you talking about with each?

Simultaneous dating doesn't strike as a good idea unless everyone knows the score.

Post by **Hound** » Thu Jan 10, 2008 11:54 pm

Originally posted by Denyer
Simultaneous dating doesn't strike as a good idea unless everyone knows the score.

Excellent point.

Post by **Sades** » Fri Jan 11, 2008 12:05 am

Yeah- inform 'em both it's not exclusive. Beyond that, I would think that you're technically good until the discussion comes up again, whether one of them brings it up or if you decide to bring it up...

Better to make up your mind sooner rather than later though.

martyboy70 · Post by **martyboy70** » Fri Jan 11, 2008 12:06 am

Don't suggest anal until at least a 3rd date its bad form

Civ · Post by **Civ** » Fri Jan 11, 2008 12:28 am

Suggest exhibitionism and see which one is more eager.

...or, just do what sadie and Denyer said...err...wrote.

Ravage · Post by **Ravage** » Fri Jan 11, 2008 1:59 am

Hehe, I like Civ's answer.

But I figure talk to them both and see what happens. If one strikes your fancy more than the other go for the one you like more. Myself I wouldn't mention you are dating more than one person unless they ask then be honest to them about it. Just be honest to them and if you like one more than the other let the other one go.

redman prime · Post by **redman prime** » Fri Jan 11, 2008 4:19 am

Be patient.

The better choice will present itself.

Or get 'em drunk together and nail them both at once. I vote for that one.....

Post by **inflatable dalek** » Fri Jan 11, 2008 8:37 am

I think there's a law that requires you to accidently arrange a date with both of them on the same night, resulting in hilarious running back and forth and the making of excuses.

Halfshell · Post by **Halfshell** » Fri Jan 11, 2008 9:20 am

Originally posted by redman prime
Or get 'em drunk together and nail them both at once. I vote for that one.....

WINNAHR.

angloconvoy · Post by **angloconvoy** » Fri Jan 11, 2008 12:26 pm

Originally posted by inflatable dalek
I think there's a law that requires you to accidently arrange a date with both of them on the same night, resulting in hilarious running back and forth and the making of excuses.

Ooh, do that!

Actually, I have very litle idea about dating ethics in north america, as there's definite variation from country to country. Generally though, if you're thinking long term potential then being straight goes best.

Edit: Ooh, but not too straight. A little lie goes a long way.

Halfshell · Post by **Halfshell** » Fri Jan 11, 2008 12:28 pm

Originally posted by angloconvoy
if you're thinking long term potential then being straight goes best.

Yes. Being straight is a very important aspect of trying to maintain a long term relationship with a member of the opposite sex.

angloconvoy · Post by **angloconvoy** » Fri Jan 11, 2008 12:29 pm

Ooh, gay jokes!

Halfshell · Post by **Halfshell** » Fri Jan 11, 2008 12:31 pm

I've got some "small people in the orient" material, if you'd prefer?

angloconvoy · Post by **angloconvoy** » Fri Jan 11, 2008 12:36 pm

I thought that was what my facebook wall was for?

And vaguely on topic, if you're dating two or more girls, its a good idea for them to be spread out (take that any way you want).

Halfshell · Post by **Halfshell** » Fri Jan 11, 2008 12:42 pm

Originally posted by angloconvoy
I thought that was what my facebook wall was for?

We can bring them to the public. I'm sure the jokes have mass appeal. Not that there's much mass to the people in Japan for it to appeal to.

Unless they're big, of course.

Chromia · Post by **Chromia** » Fri Jan 11, 2008 1:49 pm

Originally posted by Denyer
What're you talking about with each?

Simultaneous dating doesn't strike as a good idea unless everyone knows the score.

Exactly. Really can't add much more to that.

angloconvoy · Post by **angloconvoy** » Fri Jan 11, 2008 2:06 pm

Unless you can confidently keep everyone from knowing the score. Its a headache and a half though.

Galvatron91 · Post by **Galvatron91** » Fri Jan 11, 2008 6:40 pm

We're at the early stage of things and actually have discussed how we may still see other people. I've always looked at as until we've kissed, we are just two people hanging out. It's ironic how many of you chose the whacky sit-com options though...